Funerals

I treat each funeral as something unique - creating an environment that welcomes tears, smiles, laughter and quiet reflection.

All or no faiths embraced - no rules - every person is unique.

I am a fully trained member of The Fellowship of Professional Celebrants - find out more here

If you would like me to help prepare and deliver a funeral then either contact me directly or ask your chosen funeral directors to make contract with me.

I come and see you at your home or a suitable location - or sometimes by phone/Skype/email.

I place a lot of emphasis on the family contact prior to the day. It is all about listening to your wishes so that the right words and content are prepared. I will offer suggestions, help you understand the structure of a service - but there are NO rules!

I can help you with music choices, poems etc. and I will either write the words to celebrate the life (often called THE EULOGY)- or I will advice you on timings if you wish to make your own tributes. I prepare a draft copy of the Eulogy in time to make amendments. I meet you at the chapel or crematorium or burial ground at least 15 minutes in advance of the service.

'Thank you for your wonderful words for my Mum' 

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Questions you might have

  • Can I arrange a funeral withouth a funeral director?
    • Yes. It is possible but not easy - particularly when you are in the very raw stages of grief.  A good funeral director will not try to 'sell' you more than you want - and they will listen.  Do not be rushed into decisions. You might not want a limousine for instance. You might not need lots of flowers or service sheets. You should not feel guilty if you don't have the most expensive coffin either.  Good funeral directors and arrangers will be worth their weight in gold - and will support you througout.
  • Do I have to use the celebrant that a funeral director recommends?
    • No! If you have been made aware of me or another celebrant through recommendations - or a website like this... you pass the contact details to the funeral director or ask the celebrant to make contact with the funeral director.  You are not obliged to use their regular 'celebrants'.
  • Will a celebrant be able to say some prayers or include hymns?
    • Yes. A celebrant is not a humanist - or a minister.  Celebrants are all about celebrating the life of the individual - and their own beliefs are not relevant.  However - if a lot of traditional reliigious content is required it is more likely that you will choose a minister.
  • Can I ask for unusual music - rock, pop or spiritual.... and can I include unusual content - trumpet player, open forum, funny poems...
    • Yes! As long as the time period is adhered to and the music can be found... quirky content is fine!
  • Will a celebrant write the words for me?
    • Yes. The visit or phone call we arrange will be quality time for me to learn about the idividual's story. I write lots of notes and then weave them together into a eulogy that reflects the essence of that individual. You then have a look at the draft - and amend in any way you wish. (I am happy to say that there are usually very few amendments - because I listen carefully!)
  • Can a celebrant attend a cremation, woodland burial, chapel and burial...?
    • Yes. We are flexible.
  • WIll a celebrant attend a scattering of ashes and deliver some words?
    • Yes 

 

 

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